Feeling Cynical Connect!
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Hope Timberlake

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Feeling Cynical? Connect!

It’s easy to be cynical these days, but what’s the impact on your well-being? Here are some ways to shift your outlook. 

If you’ve been following my work, you know I offer tips for fine-tuning our inner voice, but it’s also important to reflect on how we perceive the world around us. 
 
It should come as no surprise that how we view those around us influences how we experience those relationships. This also applies to how much we trust other people. In fact, the physical and mental benefits of feeling part of a community are worth as much as a 40% pay raise.
 
So, how can we rein in our cynicism and create more trust?

Consider the Whole Story: After a tepid interaction, it’s easy to write off a colleague or friend. When this happens, take a beat and embrace the most generous interpretation. This includes presuming they’re having a bad day or that they’re an “eagle” (they want the bottom line – now) or “owl” For greater context, take a peek here for more about the bird styles and how they relate to communication.

Embrace 15% More Vulnerability: In Professor Carole Robin’s Interpersonal Dynamics class, affectionately known as “Touchy Feely,” she discusses the benefits of opening up 15% more than you normally would. Becoming a bit more vulnerable allows you to connect better with others. Why? When you share more of your authentic self, it fosters trust and encourages others to do the same.

Small Acts of Kindness:  Focusing outward can enhance your inner well-being, so give to others – without expecting a return. This might look like a meeting shout-out celebrating a colleague’s recent win—or an office-wide congratulations email about an achievement. Turning our attention to others can cultivate a sense of purpose. And it feels good, too!

Some people view cynicism as a strength, but research shows otherwise. If you seek a fulfilling life at work and home, consider reframing, being more open, and extending kindness to others. Making these small adjustments at home and at work can create deeper connections and more daily internal satisfaction.

Here’s to greater connection!

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P.S. Here’s another tip: Stop. Watching. News. Media outlets thrive on drama. Our health does not! This newsletter was inspired by a recent episode of the Hidden Brain podcast.

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